Monday, January 31, 2011

It's been a few days.

I hate that I have taken so long to write a new blog. It's not really that its been busy the last few days...I've just wanted to spend time with Isaac before he had to go back to work.

Now He's there and I'm just blah.

One good thing...we got our new juicer in the mail. We have only made a few things so far...but I'm already in love! I have never had such good orange juice...it was literally like drinking a dreamsicle. I will never go back! =p

So one funny thing that happened...we decided to attempt a green drink so I just got the few things for one I saw on Dr. OZ. show. Well it ended up good but it wasn't exactly correct. =D

So everything was going good until we got to the  spinach and parsley. Little did we know that for our type of juicer you and to roll leafy greens into a ball than juice. We could not figure out for the life of us what was going on. We were putting handfuls of spinach in the machine and only getting about 4 drops of juice.
Hopefully it will work out better next time. =)


I was never a big juice drinker before (Except orange juice) and every time I had apple or grape juice I just thought...Ew. But I guess it's the fact that its SO fresh it just tastes so much better. I can't tell you any of the health facts,or if its "cleansing" but I sure do love juice now!
I've only used my juicer a few times but I would definitely recommend one.

I bought my juicer here -> http://www.amazon.com/Waring-JEX328-Health-Juice-Extractor/dp/B000050FB5/ref=sr_1_4?ie=UTF8&qid=1296480596&sr=8-4

and since I am a beginner I bought this book -> http://www.amazon.com/Ultimate-Juicing-Delicious-Vegetable-Combinations/dp/0761525769/ref=pd_sim_k_5

Wednesday, January 26, 2011

Part 2 of "Why I am Little Miss Nervous"

So...in the first post I talked about my anxiety and how it could literally trap me in my own house.

But yesterday was a good day. I couldn't wait to leave the house...get out in the world. And actually be around people. I wasn't performing show-tunes on the street or anything...BUT I was outside!

It was just one of those days where I felt free.
I actually ended up going to the BX twice. I tried on some clothes...looked around. Bought coffee.
I felt as if I never get scared of leaving my house.

If you would have saw me you wouldn't have guessed the few days before I was huddled in the corner of the video store just trying to find a way to put a movie back without drawing attention to myself.

Days like this...they give me hope. Why should I let my fear control me?
Why is that question so easy to ask and so hard for me to answer?

All I want for this year is to become a better me. I know its going to be scary. But I also realize by locking myself in the house isn't going to help my feelings.

I'm not sure I really have a point for this post. I guess its just for me.

And lets face it...with Isaac gone and it just being the dogs and me...what do I have to talk about? I can always post a video I have of me finding Penelope snoozing on top of my new entertainment weekly that just happens to have Johnny Depp on the cover.
 Until I have more to say.

So long.


Now for a valuable lesson.

Monday, January 24, 2011

To You

Whoever you are, I fear you are walking the walks of dreams,
I fear these supposed realities are to melt from under your feet and hands,
Even now your features, joys, speech, house, trade, manners,
troubles, follies, costume, crimes, dissipate away from you,
Your true soul and body appear before me.
They stand forth out of affairs, out of commerce, shops, work,
farms, clothes, the house, buying, selling, eating, drinking,
suffering, dying.
Whoever you are, now I place my hand upon you, that you be my poem,
I whisper with my lips close to your ear.
I have loved many women and men, but I love none better than you.
O I have been dilatory and dumb,
I should have made my way straight to you long ago,
I should have blabb'd nothing but you, I should have chanted nothing
but you.
I will leave all and come and make the hymns of you,
None has understood you, but I understand you,
None has done justice to you, you have not done justice to yourself,
None but has found you imperfect, I only find no imperfection in you,
None but would subordinate you, I only am he who will never consent
to subordinate you,
I only am he who places over you no master, owner, better, God,
beyond what waits intrinsically in yourself.
Painters have painted their swarming groups and the centre-figure of all,
From the head of the centre-figure spreading a nimbus of gold-color'd light,
But I paint myriads of heads, but paint no head without its nimbus
of gold-color'd light,
From my hand from the brain of every man and woman it streams,
effulgently flowing forever.
O I could sing such grandeurs and glories about you!
You have not known what you are, you have slumber'd upon yourself
all your life,
Your eyelids have been the same as closed most of the time,
What you have done returns already in mockeries,
(Your thrift, knowledge, prayers, if they do not return in
mockeries, what is their return?)
The mockeries are not you,
Underneath them and within them I see you lurk,
I pursue you where none else has pursued you,
Silence, the desk, the flippant expression, the night, the
accustom'd routine, if these conceal you from others or from
yourself, they do not conceal you from me,
The shaved face, the unsteady eye, the impure complexion, if these
balk others they do not balk me,
The pert apparel, the deform'd attitude, drunkenness, greed,
premature death, all these I part aside.
There is no endowment in man or woman that is not tallied in you,
There is no virtue, no beauty in man or woman, but as good is in you,
No pluck, no endurance in others, but as good is in you,
No pleasure waiting for others, but an equal pleasure waits for you.
As for me, I give nothing to any one except I give the like carefully
to you,
I sing the songs of the glory of none, not God, sooner than I sing
the songs of the glory of you.
Whoever you are! claim your own at any hazard!
These shows of the East and West are tame compared to you,
These immense meadows, these interminable rivers, you are immense
and interminable as they,
These furies, elements, storms, motions of Nature, throes of apparent
dissolution, you are he or she who is master or mistress over them,
Master or mistress in your own right over Nature, elements, pain,
passion, dissolution.
The hopples fall from your ankles, you find an unfailing sufficiency,
Old or young, male or female, rude, low, rejected by the rest,
whatever you are promulges itself,
Through birth, life, death, burial, the means are provided, nothing
is scanted,
Through angers, losses, ambition, ignorance, ennui, what you are
picks its way.

- Walt Whitman
So. I just wrote an entire blog...hated it. So I'm sticking with something I didn't write.
Maybe I will be struck with some wonderful idea tomorrow and write the best blog ever.
But tomorrow is not today...its tomorrow.


=)
 

Thursday, January 20, 2011

Why I am "Little Miss Nervous"

Well...something some of you may or may not know. I am one of the most nervous people in the world.
All the time. Worry,Worry,Worry!

It was so bad after Isaac went TDY that I literally didn't step out of my house until today.
I get very anxious. Sometimes I feel like everyone is watching me,or judging me...waiting for me to do something incredibly stupid. This feeling can be crippling.
To be quite honest the only reason at all I left my house today was that I knew I needed to crank the car so it wouldn't die like all of the others,you know...after sitting. (In case you didn't know we have severe bad luck with cars.)
Then I thought to myself..."okay I'll just go out and crank it...I don't have to go anywhere. Psh!"
Immediately after that thought...I could only think "Oh my God my neighbors will see me and think I'm crazy...so now I need to drive somewhere...maybe just the shoppette."
But I realized  that I needed to return some rental movies I had been avoiding. So I gritted my teeth and decided to head out into the world I'm so fearful to be alone in.

One thing I hate about driving here is you have to go through the gates to show your I.D. and talk with the guards. Sometimes its not so bad...but on bad days I dread it. Just trying to stammer out Hello is a nightmare. So I try to at least smile and end up waiting way to late saying Hi back.
Thankfully today the guard himself said "Hi, Are you having a good morning? (It was night) Oh wow I said good morning didn't it?" so all I had to do was say "Yeah"

I never mind going in the post office...after there closed at least.
But the shoppette. Oh. I thought so many times about just turning around and going home. BUT I felt like I was on a mission at this point. So I went of course there were cars every where. I managed to park. So then I'm staring at all the rental options and I grab social network...but decide to wait to watch it with Isaac. So instead of simply putting it back I freak out because there are people standing there and all I can think of is "Oh God there going to think I'm a weirdo,putting this dvd back." So naturally I shove it on a random shelf...I just know those workers LOVE that.

I make my decision and head home...after what feels like a eternity.

Once I'm home...I feel fine. Normal. At ease.
Then I think back to how stupid most of the things I fear are...BUT in that moment they seem so huge. Kinda like when your a teenager and every little bad thing...like plucking to much out of one eyebrow could be the total end of the world.

I don't know why I have days like this. Sometimes I'm so outgoing...you will see me and I'm just bursting with things to say and other days I just don't want to be looked at.
I can't explain it. But I hate it so much.

I hate my anxiety attacks. All I can hope for is that once I'm home they will go away. I know that might not happen,BUT my visits home weren't to bad.

Feeling this way makes me feel like such a freak. I mean who can't go rent a movie or check the mail alone? Me apparently. Am I the only one who struggles with this? Sometimes it sure feels that way.

I'm sure this is the most boring post ever...but for today its all I got and its completely honest. I just hope it doesn't change anyone's view of me. I'm still me. And when I'm with friends it seems to vanish...I just feel this way when I'm alone. I guess that's why the military doesn't work so well for us...I literally turn crazy when Isaac is gone. hah.

Well I guess that's it...hopefully my life is an interesting read for someone out there.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

List of things NOT to say when someone's spouse is deployed or TDY. (Plus a few extra thoughts)

So basically this is the same note I just posted to facebook...but I thought I would share it here also. Maybe with a few extra thoughts.
My reason for writing this...is simple.

I am SO fed up with people acting as if they know my life...like they have walked in my shoes.
Before anyone reads this and thinks I'm talking about them. I can assure you it isn't any of you following this blog. I promise! Sometimes its just random people...which I know in my heart they mean no harm. But you know the feeling...its just something you can't avoid when you get your feelings hurt and I feel that way too.
I know I'm probably rambling...its all from a lack of sleep. But now I'm far to worked up to even think about going to sleep.
So before I say anything else that might offend someone...which I swear is not my intention...I will leave off.
Here's the note from my Facebook page.




Even though I'm going to not have to worry about this soon (THANK GOD) I do have a husband that is TDY right now. It won't be for super long...I am SO thankful for that.
But while looking online I found this list and it fit extremely well with my feelings for the past three years. So now I will give to you the list of things to just keep to yourself when talking to a military spouse who is living through a deployment.

oh and btw the little comments under the "rules" aren't mine they are the original authors...but boy do they fit.


1. I don't know how you do it.
Well, guess what? In all honesty, I don't know how I do it either. I just do. Because really, what other choice do I have?

2. I could never deal with it if my husband was gone for that long.
Hmmm...how does hearing how someone else can't deal with it help me to deal with it?

3. Are you scared that something may happen to him while he's there?
This one has always really perplexed me. Of course, I'm scared. I wouldn't be human if I wasn't. But being reminded of the fact that something may happen to him doesn't help me out.

4. Do you miss him?
Every time I was asked this, I just wanted to respond "Oh, no, definitely not. I like it when he's gone. It gives me the chance to be all by myself 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Who wouldn't want that?" Of course, I miss him. Wouldn't you miss your husband?

5. I know just how you feel. My husband was on a business trip last month for three days and I just thought I would die.
Are you kidding me? First, I barely notice now if my husband is only gone for three days. Second, unless his business trip was to a place where everyone is openly carrying a gun in the street trying to kill him and suicide bombers and roadside bombs are prevalent, its not remotely close to being the same. The only thing I may give you on this one is that you know what it's like to sleep in an empty bed.

6. Do you worry about him cheating on you? Or along the same lines...How can you go without sex for so long?
Well, people, it is a little thing called self control. That and a love for my husband and respect for my marriage. Do some people cheat? Sure they do - both here in the states and overseas. But people cheat in civilian marriages too. Being in the military has no bearing on that.




So I know...I really do that some people just don't know. And while I'm never mad at the person who asks these sorts of questions...I do have to wonder...WHAT in Gods name where they thinking?
I seriously cannot wait to be out of this mess.

Also another thing. I just LOVE how people seem to know so much better that me what its like to live my life.
I will just tell you this. The military works for some people...and it doesn't for others.
I would rather me home with my family then have all the military benefits in the world.
I've lived with them and without them. Without them for more than 18 years and I will take without please...with an extra side of friends and family. Thank you!

I am by no means anti military. I just don't want to live this kind of life.

Boring day.

So...today is the first day Isaac's been gone,for this TDY.

Of course it was difficult to sleep last night. It always takes awhile to get in a routine once your spouse isn't next to you when you wake up in the morning. Even our puppies notice he's gone. Any little sound the will take off to the door to wait for him to open it. I don't think they are sleeping very well either...every little noise would wake them.

One of the worst parts was not hearing from Isaac all night...not really knowing if he made it safely there or not. Then I didn't find out he was okay until around the afternoon. Turns out this hotel he's staying in charges 20 dollars a day for internet. Which is just crazy to me since most hotels offer free wifi. BUT there are little computer stations he can use...so he can at least email me. Also...he can't find any phone cards. yay its just like a deployment! =( Grrrrr Korea.
But we did decide in the middle of his time there he will pay the 20 bucks so we can skype. So now I have something to look forward too. Also he's going to upload some some video's he's taking.
Aside from the fact that his hotel is in the dark ages with no free internet he said its amazing and there's a TIGER in the lobby. Just hanging out...living there. Named Caesar. He of course will have to tell you all about it in his blog whenever he gets a chance to write in it.


One awesome thing from today is that I made a new baked Mac and Cheese. It's a bit different but it was tasty. I'm going to share the recipe at the bottom in case anyone wants it. =)
I made it with (You can laugh...Isaac did) my new pasta boat! Woo. That thing is AWESOME. So this recipe needs steamed broccoli and I don't have a steamer so I used this and yes I know it sounds so nerdy that I'm so excited about it but I was unsure at how it would steam them...but it workkkeeddd! and right after I just pop the macaroni in there and leave it. It was really nice because I almost always have the water boil over.
But yeah...this was like the easiest macaroni to make and it only need to bake at the most 20 minutes. So its fast.

I really wish I had more things to blog about today...but it would just be me whining about how much I miss Isaac.  So I will let this be it.



                                                                    Mac & Cheese

1/4 cup (1/2 stick) butter
1/4 cup all-purpose flour
2 cups milk
8 ounces sharp cheddar cheese,cubed
2 ounces pepper jack cheese,cubed (optional)
1/2 cup chopped onion
2 cups (about 16 ounces) broccoli florets,steamed until tender
2 cups macaroni, cooker and drained
2 English muffins, cut into 1/2 - pieces


1. Preheat oven to 350'F

2. Melt butter in large saucepan over medium heat. Stir in flour to make smooth paste; cook and stir 2 minutes. Gradually add milk; stirring constantly until mixture is slightly thickened.

3. Add cheddar cheese, pepper jack cheese, if desired, and onion to milk mixture. Cook, stirring constantly, until cheese melts. Add broccoli; stir well.

4. Place macaroni in 3 - quart casserole. Add cheese mixture; mix well. Sprinkle English muffin pieces evenly over top. Bake 15 to 20 minutes or until muffin pieces are golden brown.

                                                                                                                        Makes 4 to 6 servings.








 (I know its not the best quality picture. But I snapped it with my laptop so I didn't have to upload just one photo from my camera. =p )

Friday, January 14, 2011

A whole bunch of nothing.

So today. I have sat around trying to think of something to write about.
I did have a whole other post...I saved it. But I don't think I'm going to post it. I'm just not ready for that.


I guess I'm just have a "blah" sort of day. It hasn't been a bad day. Not even close. I got my Christmas gifts in from my Dad. One of the things I'm REALLY excited about is the taste of home baking book. I LOVE baking. One of the things I really look forward too is coming home and actually having people to bake/cook for.
I mean I can cook for Isaac and myself...but he's never here.

If you read his blog than you know he's about to go TDY to Korea. He's barely been home (a little over a month) and now he has to leave...again.

I gotta say...whenever I tell people this. I HATE when they replying with "I don't know how you do it! Your so strong!"
I hate those phrases so much. That's why honestly I avoid even talking about him being gone most of the time. I mean seriously when my husband is deployed or TDY the last thing I want to hear is how you couldn't handle the thoughts of your husband being away and not coming home to you every single night...or just going days without hearing a word from them.


I don't want to hear those things.

I guess I'm just bitter today. I would LOVE to have the life where my biggest complaint is having my cellphone drop a phone call from my husband while he's driving home from work.

Yeah yeah...the grass is always greener and others have it worse. I know. But that doesn't make me feel any better at the moment and I would just rather sit here and try to think about anything other than him leaving me again.

Thursday, January 13, 2011

My first blog.

Well...


It sort of started to feel like everyone is doing it.   Writing a blog that is.

I never really thought starting a real blog. I occasionally write notes on Facebook and that's about as far as it goes. But to really write down my thoughts...never occured to me.

But here I sit. I have no idea what to say. I don't even know if anyone will even enjoy reading my posts.

I tried to think of many things to talk about or themes. But nothing stuck with me. I considered writing about being a military wife. BUT I'm afraid it would come across really negatively.  I don't want people to think I live a glass half empty sort of life,because that's truly not the way I see things.

Having a husband who is in the military has been one of them most challenging things I have ever faced in my life. But I realize it has made me a kinder, more accepting person. So the challenges are worth it.

So I guess my blog won't be about anything really. Just whatever I happen to think of on whatever particular day I happen to think it.

Hopefully it will be amusing at least.

I don't want to set a date for my next post it could be in a week or in 15 minutes.

Until then
Live long and prosper